Hey everyone, I’m almost 14, and right now I’m in the middle of summer holidays, counting down to when I start at a new school. It feels like a mix of excitement and nerves. Excitement because it’s a chance to meet new people and try new things, but nerves because… well, what if I don’t fit in straight away? I’ve been thinking about how to prepare for it, both during the holidays and for the first days at the new school, and I want to share a few things that might help.
Preparing Yourself Over Summer
One of the most important things I’m trying to do is get into the right mindset. Going to a new school is basically like hitting reset. No one knows your reputation, your old mistakes, or even your habits. That can be scary, but it’s also a huge opportunity. If there’s something you didn’t like about yourself at your old school — maybe you were shy in class, or you never joined clubs — this is your chance to try again.
Another thing I’m working on is just getting comfortable talking to people. I’ve realised that conversations don’t have to be some big dramatic thing. Most of the time it’s just small stuff, like asking, “What class do we have next?” or “Do you know where the science room is?” These little questions can turn into proper conversations, and you don’t have to force it. Practising how to say these things confidently (even in the mirror, which feels silly but helps) makes it less scary when the time comes.
Making a Good Impression at Your New School
When it comes to actually starting, I think the most important thing is finding the right people for you. Not everyone will be your friend, and that’s fine. What matters is finding people you actually click with. I think the best way to do this is to notice how people act, not just what they say. For example, if someone’s laughing at other people or trying too hard to be popular, they might not be the kind of friend you want long-term. But if someone’s kind, includes others, or has the same interests as you (like football, gaming, or music), that’s a good sign.
Starting conversations with new people can feel awkward, but it doesn’t have to be. I think the trick is to look for openings. Like if someone’s wearing a hoodie with your favourite team or game on it, comment on it: “Hey, you play that too?” Or if you’re stuck waiting for class to start, just ask about homework or teachers. People usually respond well if you show interest without trying to act like you’re their best friend right away.
Another thing I’m telling myself is: be kind, even in small ways. Hold the door, say “thanks,” or smile at people. It might not seem like much, but it actually makes people remember you as someone friendly, and that’s a solid first impression.
Final Thoughts
At the end of the day, starting a new school is a big change, but it doesn’t have to be terrifying. If you prepare your mindset over the summer, practice a little confidence, and focus on being kind and finding people who feel right for you, you’ll be okay. I know I’m still going to be nervous, but maybe that’s part of the adventure.
My next post we be about what you can do before school to try and prepare!